ENFJs are on a quest: they want to help others to achieve their maximum potential and will do anything they can to reach this goal.
Here are people genuinely interested in others. If you know one, you can consider yourself lucky because they are indeed very friendly and are usually motivated by highly moral ideals pushing them to support their cause.
The main driver for ENFJs seems to be to help people grow and reach their full potential. This is why David Keirsey also calls them Teachers. Their ability to think outside the box and see the big picture, together with the inspiration that they get through their varied interests, helps them to dream up innovative ways of pointing others in the right direction.
Not only are they really interested in people but they are also very capable leaders. Being organised and excellent communicators, they easily convince others to join in the action. As they cannot stand conflict, they want to lead by consensus rather than coercion, which makes even more admirable.
The flip side of the coin
What is a strength in a certain situation becomes a weakness in another one. Therefore, our strengths and weaknesses are two sides of the same coin and very much depend on circumstances.Teachers need to be aware that some of their strong points can sometimes dis-serve them:
- Because they are so people centred, Teachers tend to take on too much in an attempt to alleviate the suffering of others.
- They need to understand that you sometimes need to dissociate yourself from a situation to be able to better solve it. They also tend to idealise relationships and can become deeply hurt when they do not live up to their expectations.
- They find it hard to work in environments which are not conductive to good relationships such as stressful or very competitive industries. They should avoid them if possible. Being a leader sometimes means having to make difficult decisions about people and Teachers are not very good at this. They will have to grow a thicker skin or can also pair-up with tougher types to help them with this aspect of management.
It is almost impossible to predict which personalities will get on best. However, type psychologists have tried. Therefore, you can have a look to what they have to say. There are after all, a few good ideas, but you should still be very cautious here, especially for romantic relationships. Be careful about who you entrust your heart to.David Keirsey says for example in Please Understand Me II that ENFJ Teachers would be “most compatible” with INTP Architects. The idea is that they can both enjoy stimulating conversations about the world of possibilities and complement each other in various ways. The Teacher, oriented towards helping people reaching their potential, will happily help the Architect on the road of self-improvement. Similarly, the Architect will help the Teacher not to take things too personally.However, bear in mind that the success of a relationship cannot be predicted on type alone.
Studies and career
Choosing a career is a very important decision. For young people interested in making an informed career choice or anyone willing to change theirs, I strongly recommend that you acquire this fantastic book by Paul Tieger and Barbara Baron:
Do What You Are
. This book explores, for each of the 16 types, the kind of profession that should allow you to make the best use of your strengths and suit your personality better.You will find here a very short list of professions that the authors would advise for ENFJs:
- Advertising account executive
- Public relations specialists
- Personal counselor
- Substance abuse counselor
- College professor: humanities
- Sales trainer
- Project manager
- Human resources recruiter
Again, be careful because type alone cannot predict if you will be successful in a career. You also need to take into account your own abilities, dedication to your goal, personal interests, state of the economy, professional environment... There is no guarantee in life. However, this book is a great place to start your search.
Type also helps you to understand how to like yourself. In
Portraits of Self-Esteem
, Bonnie J. Golden explains that self esteem is a combination of self-worth and competence in the life areas of relationships, intelligence, emotional self, physical self and work. Basically, the more competent you are in all these areas, the more likely you are to feel good about yourself. Also, it is like not having all your eggs in the same basket: if something bad happens in one of these areas of your life, you will still be able to rely on the others to support yourself.About ENFJs, she mentions the fact that they feel particularly good about themselves when:
- they receive a standing ovation at a concert performance
- they begin to explain and communicate directly, instead of trying to control and manipulate to get what they want
- they spend time with their family
- they reach out to their friends and are honest and really listen to what they're saying
- they take care of others
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