INFJ



INFJs are passionate idealists! Whether they are fighting for a cause that is close to their heart or guiding others on the path of self growth, nothing seems to deter these people from striving to make a difference.

The strength of convictions

Integrity is at the core of their personality. Like Gandhi, the famous Indian leader, they have very strong convictions that literally compel them to take a stand for what they believe is the right thing to do. Quite often these stances involve the well being of other people. INFJs are indeed also very caring and are particularly interested in helping other people grow. This is why David Keirsey calls them Counsellors.

A creative mind

Counsellors are best at ease in the world of ideas and relationships. Their capacity to think long term enables them to see the future implications of their actions, even if they are rather complex. They can therefore imagine creative solutions often missed by others.

The drive to realise their dreams

Not only are Counsellors creative people, they also are born organisers with the drive to make their vision a reality. Unlike a lot of people, they can motivate themselves to stay focused on bringing a project to fruition. They have such strong beliefs in their quest that they often manage to persuade others to join them.

The flip side of the coin

What is a strength in a certain situation becomes a weakness in another one. Therefore, our strengths and weaknesses are two sides of the same coin and very much depend on circumstances.Counsellors need to be aware that some of their strong points can sometimes dis-serve them:


- When one is so committed to their goals, it is easy to become impatient with the perceived lack of commitment of others. Counsellor are often so clear about what they want to accomplish that they sometimes don't understand why other people do not seem to share their enthusiasm or work at the same pace. They should try not to be judgemental as everyone has their own way of dealing with things.


- Counsellors have a hard time understanding that change takes time. They also have trouble dealing with the conflicts that change inevitably brings. Even though INFJs genuinely like people and want change to benefit them, they need to understand that others are set in their ways for a reason. Understanding this will help them deal with inevitable conflicts brought on by change and leadership.


- Counsellors tend to be very organised and therefore sometimes lack flexibility. Even though the plan is the plan, you sometimes need to improvise or even start again from scratch because your assumptions were incorrect.


Relationships

It is almost impossible to predict which personalities will get on best. However, type psychologists have tried, and you can have a look at what they have to say. There are, after all, a few good ideas, but you should still be very cautious here, especially about romantic relationships. Be careful about who you entrust your heart to.

David Keirsey says for example in Please Understand Me II that INFJ Counsellors would be “most compatible” with ENTP Inventors. This is probably because they both enjoy stimulating conversations about abstract ideas. The Counsellor also admires the creativity of the Inventor, as well as his or her spontaneity that the Counsellor sometimes lack. On the other hand, the Inventor is really fond of the the Counsellor's ability to help people grow and provide a stable home where he or she can rest after a hectic day.

However, bear in mind that the success of a relationship cannot be predicted on type alone.

Studies and career

Choosing a career is a very important decision. For young people interested in making an informed career choice or anyone willing to change theirs, I strongly recommend that you acquire this fantastic book by Paul Tieger and Barbara Baron: Do What You Are . This book explores, for each of the 16 types, the kind of profession that should allow you to make the best use of your strengths and suit your personality better.You will find here a very short list of professions that the authors would advise for INFJs:

- Librarian
- Special education teacher
- Religious worker
- Director of religious education
- Desktop publisher
- Costume attendant
- Chiropractor
- Dietitian / nutritionist
- Human resources manager
- Project manager

Again, be careful because type alone cannot predict if you will be successful in a career. You also need to take into account your own abilities, dedication to your goal, personal interests, state of the economy, professional environment...There is no guarantee in life. However, this book is a great place to start your search.

Self esteem

Type also helps you to understand how to like yourself. In Portraits of Self Esteem , Bonnie J. Golden explains that self esteem is a combination of self-worth and competence in the life areas of relationships, intelligence, emotional self, physical self and work.The more competent you are in all these areas, the more likely you are to feel good about yourself. It is like not having all your eggs in the same basket: if something bad happens in one of these areas of your life, you will still be able to rely on the others to support yourself.About INFJs, she mentions the fact that they feel particularly good about themselves when:

- they feel trust and closeness with their significant other
- they are very involved and focussed on something new
- they are accepted for who they are and are complimented
- they can make people laugh
- they don't compromise themselves

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