ESFJs are people who are always upbeat and proud to be a part of a team that makes things happen. With their commitment to achieving quality results and the importance they put on their relationships with others, they are a great asset for the various groups they belong to, including their family.
The drive to get things done
One of their most noticeable traits of is also their willingness to carry out to completion whatever task is assigned to them. If you add to this the fact they have an eye for details, a very strong work ethic and are very organised and willing to follow established procedures, you may well be in the presence of the ideal team-player!
The kind companions
What makes them even more endearing is that in addition to being result oriented they also value the relationships they build with others. They are always happy to help and even often feel that this is their duty. In a word, they can be counted on! This is why David Keirsey calls them Providers: this term reflects their willingness to help others in concrete ways.
Keepers of tradition
This attachment to people and the established ways of the organisation also makes them great keepers of traditions. They will reinforce procedures when necessary but also remember anniversaries and participate in the organisation of after-work events or family celebrations.
The flip side of the coin
What is a strength in a certain situation becomes a weakness in another one. Therefore, our strengths and weaknesses are two sides of the same coin and very much depend on circumstances.Providers need to be aware that some of their strong points can sometimes dis-serve them:
-The important value they put on relationships means that they tend to take things too personally,have difficulties working alone and can even sometimes show favouritism
- Even though they are so good with details, they sometimes struggle to see possibilities and may make decisions too quickly
- Traditions are good and deserve to be maintained but sometimes change is necessary and this is something that they tend to resist.
It is almost impossible to predict which personalities will get on best. However, type psychologists have tried. Therefore, you can have a look to what they have to say. There are after all, a few good ideas, but you should still be very cautious here, especially for romantic relationships. Be careful about who you entrust your heart to.David Keirsey says for example in Please Understand Me II that ESFJ Providers would be “most compatible” with ISTP Crafter. He explains that the stable and soft-hearted provider will enjoy providing a stable and welcoming home to the adventurous risk-taking Crafter. The latter will in return bring fun and excitement to the household.
However, bear in mind that the success of a relationship cannot be predicted on type alone.
Studies and career
Choosing a career is a very important decision. For young people interested in making an informed career choice or anyone willing to change theirs, I strongly recommend that you acquire this fantastic book by Paul Tieger and Barbara Baron:
Do What you are
This book explores, for each of the 16 types, the kind of profession that should allow you to make the best use of your strengths and suit your personality better.You will find here a very short list of professions that the authors would advise for ESFJs:
- Family physician
- Elementary school teacher
- Athletic coach
- Religious educator
- Social worker
- Customer relations manager (technology)
- Real estate appraiser
- Insurance special agent
Again, be careful because type alone cannot predict if you will be successful in a career. You also need to take into account your own abilities, dedication to your goal, personal interests, state of the economy, professional environment... There is no guarantee in life. However, this book is a great place to start your search.
Type also helps you to understand how to like yourself. In
Portraits of Self Esteem
, Bonnie J. Golden explains that self esteem is a combination of self-worth and competence in the life areas of relationships, intelligence, emotional self, physical self and work. Basically, the more competent you are in all these areas, the more likely you are to feel good about yourself. Also, it is like not having all your eggs in the same basket: if something bad happens in one of these areas of your life, you will still be able to rely on the others to support yourself.About ESFJs, she mentions the fact that they feel particularly good about themselves when:
- they are giving in a relationship as well as receiving
- they give advice to friends and help them by sharing past and present difficulties
- they get report cards with only A's and B's
- they are praised by board members
- they are chosen to represent their company at conferences and meetings
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